Jenz thoughts and feelings

October 12, 2006

I have a question

Filed under: Home and Family — jenz @ 9:56 am


Yesterday Muzz left a message about his wish for our boys to be computer technicians.

Also yesterday Billy told me that I have 2 of him that Daniel is his mini me as he likes watching TV. I did laugh and play along with this however in all honesty its the same issue
Why do parents particularly fathers insist that their sons/offspring be just like them? Its not just Muzz Im sure. I have encounter this before with my other son. What happens if the child decides to follow his own interests with just an interest or hobby in something in common with their father.

Dont get me wrong I love Billy and Muzz very very much BUT . . .

Whats so wrong with Daniel being Daniel

We went and saw a relation the other day and she said who does he look like now. I must add this is a common question asked by many – friends and relations

Again I ask what is wrong with Daniel being Daniel

His own person

Who will follow his own interests and be who he wants to be ultimately

As parents and older siblings we can lead, we can encourage and teach our baby but in the end Daniel will be Daniel

Why does society have to label everything and clone everything

Daniel in my eyes is Daniel

A good looking, happy boy with a great sense of humour who loves people and loves being tickled.

I had a poem once that summed how special and how we are individuals I unfortunately mislaid it – it went something like this:-

We are all individuals and are all special

There has never been anyone like me (Daniel)

God has never made anyone quite like me (Daniel)

Im (he’s) special


God gave us our looks and its amazing that even though the world is full of people there is generally no one that looks exactly like another person (unless the person is an identical twin)

God gave us each our own fingerprints

He gave us each a gift and talent which is suited to us personally

So one last time I ask why is it that anyone has to be labeled a mini me of anyone else????



  1. I don’t know why people do that really. I agree with you, let the person be just that person.

    Comment by Nikkie — October 12, 2006 @ 2:10 pm | Reply

  2. I agree. Everyone is always asking us who our boys look like and I really never know what to say. Just like you said, they look like them! 🙂

    Comment by m — October 12, 2006 @ 6:33 pm | Reply

  3. then I would agree as Daniels dad, maybe a lot of fathers wants to have a dream or a goal for their kids to achieve, yes I agree with Jen Daniel shoudl be Daniel, him own self on what he wants to do for a life, he will learn from his own mistakes and somtimes mum and dad does over react… thats normal, I just want Daniel and Billy to have a good normal life as for who they are not what they are and enjoy life without suffering which some people do.

    Comment by Murray Whittington — October 12, 2006 @ 8:32 pm | Reply

  4. Thankfully my husband has no inclination that the boys need to be like him. That they need to like the same things as him. Neither am I. We have one hope for them and that’s that they will be happy

    Comment by supermom — October 13, 2006 @ 10:10 pm | Reply

  5. LOL – my husband sais the kids are just like him when they are well behaved and just like me when they are naughty! heheheheh

    Have a super duper weekend!

    Comment by NMOTB — October 14, 2006 @ 7:34 am | Reply

  6. One thing we all grew up like th ekids now, as we look down and remember the past, we all grew up differently and acted differently, and learnt from our mistakes and deal with things and respect things in many different ways in life, this is how we learn the rights and wrong, some times we take the wrong in the wrong way and abuse things from the right which does happen.

    Comment by Murray Whittington — October 14, 2006 @ 10:06 am | Reply

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